Read this before using the platform. Some sisters' profiles are managed by a guardian (father, brother, uncle...). Whether you are a sister, a brother or a guardian, accepting these rules is mandatory in order to use Nikah.
1. We are here to get married
Nikah is neither a social network nor a place to make acquaintances. If you do not have a concrete intention to marry, this is not the right time to be here.
What we expect from every member:
- A genuine intention to marry, within a reasonable timeframe
- Not carrying on several conversations in parallel
- When an exchange is not leading anywhere, saying so clearly and moving on
- Not wasting the other person's time, nor playing with their feelings
- Being truthful about your situation (marital status, children, significant health matters)
2. The wali (or, failing that, a mahram)
The wali plays an essential role in Islamic marriage. Failing that, a mahram (brother, paternal uncle...) may accompany the sister. When a profile is marked "managed by a guardian":
- The guardian created the profile on the sister's behalf
- Exchanges go through him; he filters and passes messages on
- He makes sure proper conduct is observed
- The sister is consulted and kept informed at every step
The Prophet ﷺ said: "There is no marriage without a guardian" (Abu Dawud). The wali's role is to protect the sister throughout the process.
A sister with no wali or mahram? Do not create a profile on your own. Write to our support team. We will advise you as best we can.
3. How exchanges take place
The tone
- Address the other party or the guardian with respect
- No casual language, no misplaced emotion
- Keep exchanges to what is strictly necessary: one Salam is enough. Avoid multiplying du'as (JazakAllahu khayran, BarakAllahu fik...) — it becomes a form of flattery
- Be patient. The guardian consults the sister before replying
The content
- Stay on the questions that matter for a marriage
- Religion, values, life plans, material situation
- No idle chatter
What comes next
- The first exchanges are there to get a sense of each other's situation and intentions
- When interest is mutual, the wali's contact details are passed on by the platform
- Any concrete step (meeting, proposal) goes through the guardian
- No bypassing the guardian to speak to the sister
4. What you may discuss
Religion
Practice, level of knowledge, vision of an Islamic couple, children's upbringing.
Practical life
Occupation, plans, intended place of residence, ability to provide.
Expectations
Criteria that matter to you, vision of marriage, each spouse's role in the home.
Family
Introducing your family, past marital situation, children.
5. What is forbidden
- Asking for the sister's direct contact details (number, social media) without going through the guardian
- Making romantic or intimate remarks before marriage
- Criticising or circumventing the guardian's role
- Applying pressure to speed things up
- Sharing exchanges with third parties without consent
- Lying, manipulating, or being disrespectful
- Creating multiple accounts or impersonating someone
6. No contact outside the platform
Any attempt to reach the sister (or her guardian) anywhere other than on the platform, before the wali's contact details have been officially passed on to you, results in a permanent ban with no refund.
In practice, it is forbidden:
- To ask for or give a phone number, a WhatsApp, a Telegram, a Snap
- To ask for or give an email, an Instagram, a Facebook, a TikTok
- To look for the sister through her name, her photo, or online searches
- To suggest a meeting not overseen by the platform
- To go through a friend or relative to get around the messaging system
When interest is mutual and confirmed, it is only the wali's contact details that are passed on to the brother. That is the only authorised channel for going further.
7. Photos and modesty
- Sisters do not publish any photo on the platform
- No requests for a photo of the sister, even through the guardian
- Physical description is given in words, as has traditionally been done
8. The mouqabalah
The mouqabalah is the formal meeting between the sister and the suitor. A few simple rules:
- Always in the presence of the sister's wali or a mahram
- Never in private
- With a clear purpose: seeing whether marriage is a realistic prospect
- Through the tools provided by the platform, or in person with a mahram
No direct video or audio calls outside the setting provided by the platform, before marriage.
9. Special situations
Recent converts
We welcome you with joy. No advanced level of knowledge is required, just a sincere approach. The team can point you to the right resources if needed.
Divorced and widowed members
You are welcome without prejudice: your past situation is not an obstacle. The same rules apply. State your true marital status when you sign up.
10. Moderation and sanctions
To uphold these rules, the moderation team:
- May review exchanges in case of a report or a doubt
- Issues a warning for minor breaches
- Temporarily suspends the account if it happens again
- Permanently deletes the account for serious breaches, in particular contact outside the platform
Brothers, sisters and guardians can report any inappropriate behaviour. Every report is taken seriously and remains confidential.
11. A few words of advice for guardians
- Consult the sister regularly and keep her informed
- Ask the right questions to assess the suitor's sincerity
- Do not rush. Take the time it needs
- Verify the important information before moving forward
- Use the report function if an exchange goes off course
- Stay objective, and help the sister make an informed choice
May Allah grant blessed marriages to all
Marriage is half of the religion. May these exchanges be a cause of good for those seeking to complete their faith through this beautiful bond.
"Marry off the single among you..." (Surah An-Nur, v. 32)